Actually that is a LOT to ask.......your asking someone to not change how they feel from this moment early in a relationship to late in a relationship. And THAT is near impossible......but what they can do is learn to deal with their feelings in a manner that doesn't harm or ruin the relationship. On the flip side of that if you really care about that person you will make a few changes in how you handle both your other "friends" and how you handle your partners feelings.....

Someone said recently about Triads and Polyamory that 'most of them don't work out.' But most monogamous ones don't, etiher. Of course, I think that keeping three or more people sane and happy in an equal, loving environment must be difficult. But isn't everything? Isn't staying in love with one person difficult, too?

I know that personally, I feel cut off from large portions of my emotional self when I don't have an intimate female relationship. And sex is the yummy icing on the proverbial cake, but it's more of a 'filling in the corners' for me emotionally.

Luckily Uno and I went into our relationship with a lot of honesty and I've never denied or tried to subdue my love for women OR my interest in Triads. If we're lucky one day we'll get a chance to make our own mistakes.